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This Widow Wants Your Advice to Start Dating

Dianne I have not dated in several years, a widow for several, made some bad decisions, but now I am ready and at 63, I don’t know where to begin. Please, can you and your gals help me with some suggestions? I want to lose wait, 20 lbs or so. It’s a little nerve wracking for me, because I need some where to start, but where to begin is a little overwhelming. Oh my gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have found in my journey in life that you are never alone but sometimes you need to get unglued and get moving,again… It just might feel wonderful   Thanks in advance… S.S.
Please give your advice to S.S. in the Comment area below. I so much admire her spirit to get going again. These first tips are BY JOSEPH ATKINS.

Webmaster and Editor of BestSeniorDatingSites.org  

Tip #1: Take the time to heal.  

Before saddling back up on the dating horse, it is important that you take some time alone to recover from your last fall.  Dealing with the loss of a relationship takes time and is something that can’t be rushed.  Learn to do things on your own, focusing on a healthy new you.  Remember, if you enter a relationship while still holding on to feelings of negativity and bitterness…don’t expect it to end well.  The only way you will ever be able to make another person happy is when you are truly happy with yourself. Once you’ve achieved that, your positivity is bound to radiate, making you more open to meeting a like-minded individual.

Tip #2: Move out of your comfort zone.

It helps to get out of your old habits.  If you believe that you can only date a certain type of person, go out of your way to date someone who differs from those criteria and try to be open about that person.  Be willing to try new ways to meet a match, such as online dating.  For seniors in search of a second chance at love, this is currently one of the most popular and successful methods available today.

Tip #3: Don’t fall in love with the idea of love.  

Many seniors who have been used to having a partner around may be experiencing feelings of extreme loneliness.  While this is tough, you should be careful not to look for love solely to fill a void in your life.  Just because someone comes along at a lonely point doesn’t mean that they are the right match.  After you’ve taken the time to heal, think about the attributes and qualities that are important to you in a counterpart—then carefully look for the person who meets these guidelines and don’t compromise.

Tip #4: Honesty is the best policy—just be yourself.  

This is something that you’ve probably heard since you were a kid and it is a rule that should translate into your dating life as a senior.  If you are using an online dating site, be sure to only include truthful information in your interactions with fellow online

PS: That’s not her photo – for privacy we used a stock photo from Shutterstock.com

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  • Dianne Morris

    Dianne Morris

    POSTED FEBRUARY 07, 2014
    (See my previous 3 remarks here) And I should add that I’m not rich either. I do keep myself up but I’d like to be at least 10 pounds thinner as the widow would. However the men who ask me out are people I’ve gotten to know and they aren’t seeking a hot young body. (The widow could join a 60+ walking club, active senior exercise classes at a community center or gym and widen her circle while narrowing her hips. I just might do that to!)

    by PHOEBE, MN
    POSTED FEBRUARY 07, 2014
    I meant I’m not on an internet dating site–obviously I’m on the internet!! 🙂

    by PHOEBE, MN
    POSTED FEBRUARY 07, 2014
    I am 66 years old and have been asked to have coffee by 3 different men recently and on a date by another a month ago. Half of the men were younger than I by a couple of years (and I wasn’t looking and I’m not on the internet and I’m not unusually young looking or pretty any more). See my advice above!!

    by PHOEBE, MN
    POSTED FEBRUARY 07, 2014
    I have been a widow for 13 and half years and I only dated a couple of times last year which was a struggle for me because I feel I am too old. I feel mean my age, 63, are looking for younger women. So my advise to you is to make sure that you want to date again and get your self prepared for the men that is out there to date.

    POSTED FEBRUARY 07, 2014
    The advice given was excellent. I would also highly recommend that S.S. think about how she would like to see a better world and then join an activist group of mature people working on it. She will generally meet good people interested in what she is interested in, get to know them and also have a feeling of satisfaction.

    by PHOEBE, MN

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