Be successful with your New Year’s resolutions – avoid these mistakes in creating them.
Only eight percent of Americans will successfully meet their New Year’s resolutions, according to the University of Scranton, Journal of Clinical Psychology. Sadly, it doesn’t seem surprising that most of us ditch our resolutions before the Super Bowl rolls around. So what causes this breakdown?
We all decide to make the New Year a better year with seemingly attainable goals like eating better, losing weight, or spending more quality time with family, but it’s hard to be successful. And failing, well, that’s depressing. Here are my top three reasons for our lack of follow-through when it comes to New Year’s resolutions:
1. We don’t make goals measurable enough.
We know that we want to be better, but we often times are not specific enough when setting a resolution. To be observable, the have to be measureable. Saying “I want to lose “weight” is not measureable, and you will most likely find yourself discouraged every time you eat that second slice of pie.
Instead, be overly specific in what you want to achieve. For example, say “I want to be able to fit into my favorite red dress before vacation” or “I want to lose 5 pounds before Easter.” By making goals specific, you will be able to create attainable, realistic goals for yourself.
2. You allow people – and yourself – to discourage you.
Understand that you will have negative or discouraging thoughts, especially if you are truly challenging yourself outside of your comfort zone. What is important is how you handle discouragements that creep in. Your unconscious mind controls your life, so counter limiting beliefs with positive affirmations. If your subconscious is positive, so will be your outlook.
It’s also important to be in an environment that supports your goals. Naysayers are cynics who don’t believe in your ability to change your life for the better, and they have no positive purpose for you. Share your successes, but do not always share your dreams so readily. By keeping them close to your heart, you’re allowing them to percolate – think of them, meditate on them and learn from them. That’s not to say that a support system is not beneficial, just make sure you are sharing with supportive, positive people in your life.
3. We ignore the hurdles and challenges.
It sounds great that you want to spend more time at home with family instead of the office, but did you take into account that big merger happening next month? What about the business trip you already have booked? There is absolutely nothing wrong with setting these goals, but don’t get discouraged when you encounter impassable hurdles. By making allowances for the inevitable interruptions, you will be able to better plan for and deal with challenges and stick to your plan.
Remember, a positive attitude sends new messages to the cells in our body and can actually reprogram your health and behavior. Keeping your goals realistic, staying away from critics and preparing for challenges before they happen will set you up for success in 2017.